Updated: Jan 19
During the 12 week empowerment course I took over the summer/fall, one of the assignments was to create an elevator speech about myself. The parameters were to think about what I actually want to say about myself. Also keeping in mind that this is what I'm telling myself about me.
I was kind of (not really) surprised to realize that the thing I generally tell people when meeting them for the first time is that I have six kids. Usually that sends all conversation rocketing down a path that has very little to do with me as a person - and honestly? I liked it that way. If that didn't work or this person wanted to know more - I brought out the big guns. I mean dogs. Three big dogs. That I have. I realized that I was deflecting any opportunity for a real connection with another person - out of what? Fear? Inferiority complex? Lack of any real insight into who I am?
So I sat down to write an introduction of me - challenging myself to only include stuff about me - what I like, what I'm passionate about, etc. WITHOUT including anything about my family or pets until the very end - if at all.
I used to have my identity all tied up in my job - so when I met someone I'd lead off with that, then the kids, then the dogs - you get the picture. Maybe this is something you can relate to?
Enough about you - this speech is about me. :)
So - 2 - 3 minutes about me. Not about the kids. Or dogs. Or my husband. Focus on sharing the stuff I like about myself.
Hi, I'm Cathy, and I like myself when I'm having a glass of wine and not doing laundry.
Hi, I'm Cathy, would you like to see my tattoo? Also no.
Maybe it's something like Will Ferrell and Cheri Oteri in SNL's cheerleader speech. If you do it in uniform with a bunch of clapping and it rhymes - you've got a winner.
"Roll call! I'm Cathy, I've got team spirit, I don't do drugs, so check me out!"
I may also use humor to deflect, hard to say.
I think I always feel like talking about yourself is somehow selfish or show-offy. I don't mean to say I don't talk a LOT, but it's usually me telling some kind of story and trying to get you to laugh. So this was tough.
I wrote down some stuff, moved it around a bit, added a couple of things, and came up with my "elevator speech." This is me - introducing myself to you.
Hi. I'm Cathy. I'm really passionate about trying new things. I've recently gotten my 3 wheel motorcycle certification and started sailing lessons. I'm also working on a children's book about mindfulness. I really like art and I'd like to illustrate the book myself, so I'm learning to watercolor.
To relax I like to watch different Britbox detective series while I fold laundry. I also love spending time with my husband and kids and our dogs.
Let's put aside for a sec that this was not remotely 2-3 minutes (I respect your time, so I'm efficient) and celebrate the fact that I told you some very personal (not "where my tattoo is" personal) stuff about myself - that I like about myself - and I mentioned my family at the end. It's not just okay to recognize and verbalize the qualities, interests, and loves you have - it's essential. This is your one life. Get comfortable with who you are and want to become as an individual. A whole new world of connections to others opens up when you dare to step forward as yourself.
Drop your elevator speech in the comments - I'd love to hear it!